Who I would want to direct it?

Lots of good choices.

How about Darren Aronofsky or Ben Affleck?

All you want from Star Wars is decent looking troops? Ehm, ok.

I guess I'm being very demanding for wanting a bit more than that

To be fair, though - I AM very demanding, and I can't stand Abrams and his hollow mass-market-above-all approach to everything he does.