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DArtagnan
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Humor doesn’t really translate well to writing and like you said we're all right and wrong every single day of our lives, the idea or at least philosophy behind an online forum is to give people a place to discuses various ideas and topics, when you try to devalue an opinion rater then just pointing out why you disagree with it and what your own opinion on the matter is, you end
Seems something is missing there.
Anyway, when I spot an opinion I perceive as uninformed or unfair - I consider it of lesser value than an informed opinion. But I don't confuse an uninformed opinion with an overall uninformed person. That's where I differ from a lot of people.
I believe that we're all ignorant and equally so. Perhaps not exactly equal - but since we have no way of measuring total knowledge and understanding - that's my assumption.
Given that understanding, I don't think it's a problem to have an opinion devalued - if the opposition can support why. In fact, I think it's a natural consequence of being wrong about something.
I personally don't care to be polite unless I can do it whilst being fully honest - and I don't know how to accomplish that. Honesty, for me, includes telling people what you really think - and not some of what you think put in a subtle way.
I don’t believe you are a terrible person, I do believe however that you like to pretend you are a terrible person and there is nothing wrong with that, I like to pretend I am a terrible person to, when I’m playing an RPG its always what is the most evil choice I can make in this situation, sell the baby to a demon for 100g sure let’s do it, however when I am communicating with real life people no matter if it is in face to face dialogue, talking on the phone or posting on an online forum that pretending ends.
You should probably re-read my original post. I openly stated that I don't think of myself in that way.
I think I'm just a human being subject to the same flaws we're all subject to.
This thread was a way to communicate that I'm sick of people getting personal in interesting threads. It's quite alright to despise me - but it's stupid to ruin threads by focusing on me. Since I don't take kindly to personal attacks - I tend to feel I should defend myself and explain where I'm coming from - and since that has happened more and more in threads not at all relevant to my person, I decided to create this thread to get it over with. Naive, perhaps, but that's why I did it.
Dartagnan isn’t just a user name any more he is a person now, an alter ego you have developed to live out your fantasy of being the antihero that everyone loves to hate, I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, we all like to rolepla or we would have signed up on this forum and hell there are even entire forums out there that are just devoted to posting as a roleplayed character.
It is my understanding however that the creators of this particular forum meant it to be a place where people could make topics about cRPG and expect other users to respond with their opinions and views in a manner that encouraged healthy discussions not bickering.
You got me all wrong
Again, humor doesn't register well - but I don't consider myself the anti-hero. That's my playful way of communicating to people that they're exaggerating their negative opinion about me - especially considering how little they actually know of me.
No, overall - I'm somewhat pleased with my own personality - though I'm very far from pleased with my accomplishments in life.
As for my online persona - I'm just sick of the thread destruction. I also refuse to take the blame for it - but I do think it's fair that I share in that blame. Since it happens so often, I feel I should make an effort to clarify where I'm coming from. But I'm rarely the one taking it into the personal space.
I know many people have different ideas of how ”real” a conversation is on any forum and maybe I’m just being old school but I do believe that if you are interested in having a constructive conversation you should apply the same tact and respect when making a post as you would have when having a face to face conversation.
I'm exactly the same in a face to face conversation - probably even "worse" - except my humor is registering and my body language is there to communicate a lot of subtle aspects of my personality.
It's not something I register myself. All I can say is that I'm a well-liked person in most circles. Actually, I'm considered warm and kind-hearted. Go figure.
Being polite and honest are not mutually exclusive, being honest come first of course, but if you put a little time into your posts being polite as well usually isn’t that hard and that apply to everyone I seen far worse people then you on other forums.
I completely disagree, but I know most people don't see that. Being polite almost invariably means hiding your true feelings - and that goes for all situations in life. Now, in some RL situations - being polite is a necessary social lubricant, or we'd never be able to leave our homes.
But, generally, I'm the sort of person who tells people my true feelings when and if I consider them relevant.
I have no interest whatsoever in being polite - if it means something is not being communicated that's potentially relevant.
IRL, that's not a problem - because people seem to understand that being criticised is not the end of the word - and it's probably because I manage to communicate very clearly that I don't think I'm a special person because I disagree. I can't seem to do that with too much success around here.
That said, it does seem that a few people understand me on this site - and I appreciate that.
Really, where I come from(Denmark) politicians are far more interested in attacking their opponent’s opinions and doing character assassination then the are in being popular, don’t believe me just hit one of the online newspaper sites and read up on latest articles and headlines under politics.
I'm from Denmark as well.
However, in politics - you're subject to a completely corrupt structure and you can only do so much based on what's in your heart. This goes even for the best and most genuine politicians. However few of them there are.
They have to play a game and that means they can never - ever - tell the whole truth.
So, it's definitely part of everyday politics to attack the opposition - but the difference between a politician and myself is that I attack based on what I really feel - and I never - EVER - attack because I want to make myself look better. That's just not in my character.
Trust me, it's very very easy to be a popular person online. All you have to do is never get too negative and always say something positive about people. That's it.
So, if that was really something that I cared about - I'd be among the most popular people here. But I can't be like that and be honest, so there it is.
Sure, it’s not the same thing but given the nature of the topic I didn’t think you would mind me trying to be cute, you started this topic after all.
Why would you think I mind?
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