Gig
Sentinel
This is 100% true, it is broad and generalized and I probably got carried away. I felt a little guilty after Bart posted in because I was the one encouraging him to approach the lady at the club and it didn't work out.Careful, now. That's a broad generalization. Not all women suffer from BBS. Many women are not taken to an "ugly place" by a man that is timid or shy.
I will say this however, my experience still bears out my comments. The only women I know who are attracted to timid men are extremely domineering people and I always feel bad for their partners, just like I do for a woman who's in a bad relationship. The women I know, who I consider healthy emotionally, all seem to be attracted to confident, go getter, types. I don't actually include myself here because, while I'm generally well adjusted, I am the only creep freak in my circle of friends. It doesn't change that I don't know any women who are looking for meek man as a partner, they usually end in the "why can't I find a guy like you... only not you?" category.
Which I admitted. I don't like arrogant men, no, my creeps must be charming and hide the fact that they're arrogant, self important idiots.While I agree that confidence is a good thing when asking a woman out, it's a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
I don't really agree with this completely, although I do in spirit, if you mean what I think you mean. I agree that a return to a pre-feminist era where the man is dominant and what happens in the family, stays in the family, and the woman takes what she gets and is happy, and is expected to be obedient and respectful and quiet and every other pre-lib cliche' is unacceptable. However, I also want men to be men and do manly things, I don't want to be the one who always has to be strong. I got a taste of that first hand and it was a very bitter pill I can tell you. I'm not interested in having another girlfriend in a mansuit.I don't think we do the world any good by encouraging the clichéd, "me-man you-woman ung!" approach. I'd think you of all people, based on your BBS lamenting, would understand that.
:lol: It is. I was sort of grabbing a convenient example to make a point. And I was actually talking about the easy, matter-of-fact way dte just slipped it in to the conversation while Bart was asking for serious advice -- he was such a guy. I don't believe for a minute that abusive, predatory men should be given one single inch of consideration and I won't shed a tear for any of them that really do burn up on a mattress. I've known dte for several years, though, and I took his comment according to my experience with his sense of humor. I have absolutely no doubt, whatsoever that the duct tape comment was made in complete jest.And I find it curious that you'd interpret dte's "ether and duct tape" joke as virile manhood. Um, isn't that more like a scared, sociopathic, misanthrope?
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