roqua
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This post is just mostly about the stupidity of people, and people like us in general. While this may not be true for all of us, I believe it is true to some extent for all of us.
I was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness. I’ll skip the details and just say that my body is too manly for terminal illness and decided terminal illness was gay, so it downgraded it to two serious illnesses that fooled people into thinking it was a terminal illness.
My life changed drastically after I was told I was going to die. But my life really didn’t. I have always said I’ll work until the day I die, so my life was just business as usual.
What was the drastic change is hard to explain, but also very easy. When I was at work I was happier, knowing there was an end to the grind, and when I got home I didn’t think about anything besides squeezing every precious second into spending time with my family. I have always had fun playing with my kid. But just watching her, absorbing her, really, really seeing her, without thoughts in my mind of getting the time in so my conscience will be clean before I get on the computer and start tuning her out.
Me and my wife, instead of ignoring the conversations we usually do, or avoiding interaction, or doing things together that would allow us not to talk to each other (like watching movies or TV), had those hard conversations without fights, worries or stress.
I started living and stopped existing. Any stress or worry I had went away. I looked forward to and got great enjoyment out of spending all my time with family. Going to see other family went from a dreaded, annoying, waste of time to something I looked forward to.
Now, I kind of glossed over living and existing, but that one sentence summarizes it. For a while I knew what it actually was to live the good life. To have one of those ridiculous TV families that got along so well it was sickening. Those families that were close and didn’t see spending time together as obligatory and a bump in the road to doing what you really enjoy (in our case, or my case, getting on the computer and having my alone time, or relaxation time). All my time was relaxing. At work I looked forward to getting home not because work sucks and I wanted to play a game, but because I was excited to spend time with my family.
Jack London wrote, “The object of man is to live, not exist.” And until you really start living its hard to understand how true that is.
Now this is the kicker. Once we found out I wasn’t going to die things slowly changed back to just existing. A couple days later I was spending time with my family and having a good time, but I just wanted to get away. Go escape them. Loose myself in a game, or at least turn my family into background noise as I read forums.
It came to a head yesterday, while all my family came over to our place, and I kept sneaking away to go reply to a stupid forum argument I got myself into that in all actuality on something I really didn’t care that much about. My wife kept coming to get me and I’d tell her I wouldn’t go back, but I kept doing it. We had a talk last night and I told her that I wish I were still dying because I’ve never liked life so much. She said things could always be that way without me dying, and its true. Buts its not. Its true in theory, but in practice I retreat and seek any form of escapism I can find. But what I really want is to have it the way it was, to not want to avoid them, or put in my obligatory time with them. To change my thinking back to when I was living and I saw any time not spent with them was a waste of time, and not vice versa.
I’m sure some of us have that perfect balance of family/alone time. But I’m 100% sure that everyone here has chosen to play a new game over using their time more wisely and spending it with their family and loved ones. I’m sure we all really want to rush home from work and spend a full and fulfilling evening with our loved ones, but spend it saving the world of this game or that instead. What makes us so stupid to see the truth, be able to live a dream life, yet not do it? Why did I have to be told I was dying to really live? Why, right now, am I so glad my wife is at work and I have the day off? Why did I pop in a video for my kid so I could write this? What I really want right now is a new game I can really lose myself in, think about while at work, and rush home to play. But what I actually want is to live again, I’m just too stupid to do it.
If you are a stronger person than I am, I hope you’ll give up the internet and game playing right now. Start really living. If you are as weak and pathetic as I am, I hope you get misdiagnosed with a terminal illness so you can see what living is all about.
I was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness. I’ll skip the details and just say that my body is too manly for terminal illness and decided terminal illness was gay, so it downgraded it to two serious illnesses that fooled people into thinking it was a terminal illness.
My life changed drastically after I was told I was going to die. But my life really didn’t. I have always said I’ll work until the day I die, so my life was just business as usual.
What was the drastic change is hard to explain, but also very easy. When I was at work I was happier, knowing there was an end to the grind, and when I got home I didn’t think about anything besides squeezing every precious second into spending time with my family. I have always had fun playing with my kid. But just watching her, absorbing her, really, really seeing her, without thoughts in my mind of getting the time in so my conscience will be clean before I get on the computer and start tuning her out.
Me and my wife, instead of ignoring the conversations we usually do, or avoiding interaction, or doing things together that would allow us not to talk to each other (like watching movies or TV), had those hard conversations without fights, worries or stress.
I started living and stopped existing. Any stress or worry I had went away. I looked forward to and got great enjoyment out of spending all my time with family. Going to see other family went from a dreaded, annoying, waste of time to something I looked forward to.
Now, I kind of glossed over living and existing, but that one sentence summarizes it. For a while I knew what it actually was to live the good life. To have one of those ridiculous TV families that got along so well it was sickening. Those families that were close and didn’t see spending time together as obligatory and a bump in the road to doing what you really enjoy (in our case, or my case, getting on the computer and having my alone time, or relaxation time). All my time was relaxing. At work I looked forward to getting home not because work sucks and I wanted to play a game, but because I was excited to spend time with my family.
Jack London wrote, “The object of man is to live, not exist.” And until you really start living its hard to understand how true that is.
Now this is the kicker. Once we found out I wasn’t going to die things slowly changed back to just existing. A couple days later I was spending time with my family and having a good time, but I just wanted to get away. Go escape them. Loose myself in a game, or at least turn my family into background noise as I read forums.
It came to a head yesterday, while all my family came over to our place, and I kept sneaking away to go reply to a stupid forum argument I got myself into that in all actuality on something I really didn’t care that much about. My wife kept coming to get me and I’d tell her I wouldn’t go back, but I kept doing it. We had a talk last night and I told her that I wish I were still dying because I’ve never liked life so much. She said things could always be that way without me dying, and its true. Buts its not. Its true in theory, but in practice I retreat and seek any form of escapism I can find. But what I really want is to have it the way it was, to not want to avoid them, or put in my obligatory time with them. To change my thinking back to when I was living and I saw any time not spent with them was a waste of time, and not vice versa.
I’m sure some of us have that perfect balance of family/alone time. But I’m 100% sure that everyone here has chosen to play a new game over using their time more wisely and spending it with their family and loved ones. I’m sure we all really want to rush home from work and spend a full and fulfilling evening with our loved ones, but spend it saving the world of this game or that instead. What makes us so stupid to see the truth, be able to live a dream life, yet not do it? Why did I have to be told I was dying to really live? Why, right now, am I so glad my wife is at work and I have the day off? Why did I pop in a video for my kid so I could write this? What I really want right now is a new game I can really lose myself in, think about while at work, and rush home to play. But what I actually want is to live again, I’m just too stupid to do it.
If you are a stronger person than I am, I hope you’ll give up the internet and game playing right now. Start really living. If you are as weak and pathetic as I am, I hope you get misdiagnosed with a terminal illness so you can see what living is all about.
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