roqua
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What I think, being born into a black neighborhood, and being half Cape Verdean, is that there are some issues that are always ignored when it comes to some social issues. The biggest one is the poor mindset. My father had this and my mother, being crazy, broke him of it. My father never thought he'd own a house, have a good job, etc, because he was born poor, and just truely believed that was above him.
My mother's family came here for the American Dream, and always believed you can acheive whatever you want in America. So she basically made my father believe in himself.
But the poor mindset can't be overlooked. Another aspect is that everyone today has an excuse. "I'm [this] so I the cards were stacked aginst me, its not my fault." Evetyone has so many excuses and someone else to blame but themselves. Black people don't have to be disproportionaly represented in poor neighborhoods and jails. For everyone crying about something that happened to them, or blaming their failings on this or that, there is an example of a stronger/better person that overcame the same odds/struggle/situation.
Personally, I blame white people for enforcing the excuses, and validating them. These same white people would be in the same boat if born into a poor black family. Weak-willed and pethetic. It just so happened that they were born into middle class or higher family and the odss were they were going to do okay, dispite being weak-willed and pathetic.
This goes hand in hand with margerettes defense of people that are "scarred for life" due to whatever. Not of they choose not to be. Strong people aren't. Everyone has a chance to excel, everyone has the same decision when presented with a gut-check. "Do I man up and drive-on, or quit because things got hard? This is a good excuse not to keep going, so why bother?"
If you saw "The Pursuit of Happyness" or any other story like that you know that, deep down, everyone is capable of great things.
One of my colloge professors (one of the handful I actually respected) had a very hard life. Had two kids by 18. Was alone, poor, overworked and underpaid. She had pride and didn't accpet any help or hand outs and is now the site manager of some place with like 4k people under her, has her masters, teaches two classes a week, is sending one kid to USC, another to a different fancier school. She didn't tell us this, the svhool had profiles of different people that graduated and did well hang around the business building, and I saw hers. Ans she's an Indian (feather, not dot).
Look at Vault Dweller, he has a family and works fulltime, but has a dream of developing games for a living. So he is making that dream a reality by scarifice, hard work, and dedication. How many of us would ant to develope our own games but just aren't willing to make the sacrifice or take the risk?
The creame will always rise to the top. The creame will never be held down in free society. Now, we all know a lot of people like this, but they usually aren't vocal about there achievements, since the only person they are trying to prove anything to is themselves. These are the best of the best, the people that started at the bottom and shrigged off everything life threw at them and plugged away silently until they got or get what they want. The people that can't be stopped or held back, because they won't allow it. They don't complain about their situation, they improve it. These people are far better then people that were born rich and got a little richer. And they don't judge others by where they are in life, but by how far the came in life. How strong they are.
What we have now is the weal making excuses for the weak, and the weak using excuses to avoid the hard work neccesary to improve. Held together be the common bond of being pathetic.
No man or women, black, white, yellow, brown, red, or whatever, with enough guts, grit, drive, or intestinal fortitude will ever be held back. They persevere and overcome.
There are huge socio economic problems in this country, and slavery and other issues are what might have originally been the reasons for blacks being held back economically, but the reason for this still happening, is that people aren't willing to correct the issue in a meaningful way. And that way is to stop accepting excuses and beat in every kids head that they are as great as they choose to be, and if they fail in life, it wasn't society that failed them, but their choice to be weak.
My mother's family came here for the American Dream, and always believed you can acheive whatever you want in America. So she basically made my father believe in himself.
But the poor mindset can't be overlooked. Another aspect is that everyone today has an excuse. "I'm [this] so I the cards were stacked aginst me, its not my fault." Evetyone has so many excuses and someone else to blame but themselves. Black people don't have to be disproportionaly represented in poor neighborhoods and jails. For everyone crying about something that happened to them, or blaming their failings on this or that, there is an example of a stronger/better person that overcame the same odds/struggle/situation.
Personally, I blame white people for enforcing the excuses, and validating them. These same white people would be in the same boat if born into a poor black family. Weak-willed and pethetic. It just so happened that they were born into middle class or higher family and the odss were they were going to do okay, dispite being weak-willed and pathetic.
This goes hand in hand with margerettes defense of people that are "scarred for life" due to whatever. Not of they choose not to be. Strong people aren't. Everyone has a chance to excel, everyone has the same decision when presented with a gut-check. "Do I man up and drive-on, or quit because things got hard? This is a good excuse not to keep going, so why bother?"
If you saw "The Pursuit of Happyness" or any other story like that you know that, deep down, everyone is capable of great things.
One of my colloge professors (one of the handful I actually respected) had a very hard life. Had two kids by 18. Was alone, poor, overworked and underpaid. She had pride and didn't accpet any help or hand outs and is now the site manager of some place with like 4k people under her, has her masters, teaches two classes a week, is sending one kid to USC, another to a different fancier school. She didn't tell us this, the svhool had profiles of different people that graduated and did well hang around the business building, and I saw hers. Ans she's an Indian (feather, not dot).
Look at Vault Dweller, he has a family and works fulltime, but has a dream of developing games for a living. So he is making that dream a reality by scarifice, hard work, and dedication. How many of us would ant to develope our own games but just aren't willing to make the sacrifice or take the risk?
The creame will always rise to the top. The creame will never be held down in free society. Now, we all know a lot of people like this, but they usually aren't vocal about there achievements, since the only person they are trying to prove anything to is themselves. These are the best of the best, the people that started at the bottom and shrigged off everything life threw at them and plugged away silently until they got or get what they want. The people that can't be stopped or held back, because they won't allow it. They don't complain about their situation, they improve it. These people are far better then people that were born rich and got a little richer. And they don't judge others by where they are in life, but by how far the came in life. How strong they are.
What we have now is the weal making excuses for the weak, and the weak using excuses to avoid the hard work neccesary to improve. Held together be the common bond of being pathetic.
No man or women, black, white, yellow, brown, red, or whatever, with enough guts, grit, drive, or intestinal fortitude will ever be held back. They persevere and overcome.
There are huge socio economic problems in this country, and slavery and other issues are what might have originally been the reasons for blacks being held back economically, but the reason for this still happening, is that people aren't willing to correct the issue in a meaningful way. And that way is to stop accepting excuses and beat in every kids head that they are as great as they choose to be, and if they fail in life, it wasn't society that failed them, but their choice to be weak.
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