So no letting it go, eh? You really don't get it, do you? OK, I'll try explaining it, though I think I'm likely to regret it. I may seem condescending, but to me you seem confused (sorry).
It's your rules. You're welcome to them, but they're not the rules. I imagine they're convenient for you, but they're not much fun for me. All of us naturally have rules we prefer, and that's fine. But you're insistent about yours.
I enjoy conversation, and that's why I expressed my point of view here. I would gladly elaborate and get a kick out of discussing it. But that doesn't mean I feel obligated, either.
Ever see someone with bad breath at a party? Everyone recoils from them. It's not that they don't want to enjoy that person's company. They just aren't enjoying the bad breath.
If you had asked me straight up if I was referring to you when I referred to "losers," I probably would have told you. But you're working it in a way I don't enjoy (and don't respect -- again, sorry), so I took a pass.