Thrasher
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It used to be the rare kid that got driven to school. Now it's the norm. What's up with that?
To be honest, that observation might be easier for non-parents to make since they can be detached about it. Iz a little tougher to stick with the "who cares what that punk thinks" mantra (or the "well, you pretty well sucked rocks on that test/competition/whatever, so what can you change to be better next time" honest appraisal) when it's your kid crying.
Physically, emotionally, and psychologically. It's really difficult to get a kid to develop self-confidence and self-esteem since that has to come from them. You can guide situations and guide the development somewhat, but ultimately that "self-" component has to be there. I think (wholly unsupported opinion to follow) that's part of the reason many parents have bought into the "nobody fails" psychobabble--it's so much easier, both for the parent and the child, to go with endless empty praise and there's impressive textbooks that say you can hand a kid a box of self-esteem so that must make it right. Yet another instance of parental laziness being not only excused but promoted.You have to teach your kids to be tough from the beginning.
As we've discussed before, I don't know whether it's false perception, wider reporting of tragedies creating better awareness of a problem that was always there, or the world genuinely getting nastier, but security definitely factors into things far more than it did back in my day. I'd never consider letting my girls do some of the stuff that I did without concern as a kid (and I had a stay-at-home mom keeping tabs on me, so it's not like I was running wild).@DTE
Hmm, that last one makes sense. When I grew up there was almost always a homemaker to see the kids off, but she didn't walk them. Hell, the kids would rather be on their own.
There would have been more time back then for chauffeure service. Something other than availability is behind this. Probably paranoia caused by drug abuse.
You are not wrong, I don't have much in the way of empathy for people I never meet and I just can't understand why someone would commit suicide for any reason, sure I know the reason some people have done it but the idea of actually doing it is just completely foreign to me, just as the idea of not caring about this suicide is completely foreign to some people, there are people out there that don't care about teenagers committing suicide, I am one of them and I make no excuses for it, I am not proud or ashamed off it its just how I feel on the subject.Not only does it sound cold, but as I see it it IS cold. Your post suggests limited emotional capicatiy and above all you seem to know very little about what drives people to comitting suicide.
All based on what you wrote in your post, I don't know anything about YOU, of course
pibbur who probably will regret posting this
I love my family, I like computer game, I think suicide is a way to escape your problems rather then face them, I don't think that you shouldn't be scared to voice your opinion just because it isn't the popular one, I think your viewpoint f this topic is completely valid but I don't agree with it, now you know a bit more about meI don't know anything about YOU, of course
That comment probably came out wrong, it was me trying to use my limited understanding what would course a person to commit suicide, for me the only thing I could think off that would make me commit suicide is being stuck in some 3rd world torture prison, that was really all that part of the post was about, people in the western world is just a susceptible to bullying and depression as the rest of the world.Are you suggesting that everyone in the western world should feel wonderful and can't be vulnerable to bullying or a large variety of emotional problems?
If I am missing some key inside into the human condition please inform me what that inside might be, yes I would care if it was someone close to me that died and I probably would give "yeah its sad" comment if a colleagues or random person asked me about Amanda Todd in real life just to avoid a dissection, if it was a person I felt comfortable with I would say the same thing "yeah its sad but I really don't care about person on the other side of the world committing suicide".As for sounding cold, I guess you do. That said, I suspect we're talking ignorance about the human condition above all. Very common - and often more pronounced online than when talking face to face.
I don't consider a 15 year a child, I could do a long post about why I think that is but it probably won't change your opinion, how about we just agree to disagree on this matter.Were we discussing an adult, I might agree with you. But we aren't. We are talking about a child who was manipulated by an adult. That is a VERY different matter.
I don't consider a 15 year a child, I could do a long post about why I think that is but it probably won't change your opinion, how about we just agree to disagree on this matter.
You have to teach your kids to be tough from the beginning.
A 15 year old rarely has the emotional maturity (and confidence born from experience) to deal with all kinds of attacks. That's the point.
Its not an opinion matter. The brain isn't fully developed at 15, and thats a proven fact. Also keep in mind that she was fifteen at the end of the ordeal, not the beginning. If you never knew anyone who went through emotional trauma at a young age and saw how it affected them even into their adult years, I could see why you might be so flippant about it. I have, so I can't.
If I am missing some key inside into the human condition please inform me what that inside might be, yes I would care if it was someone close to me that died and I probably would give "yeah its sad" comment if a colleagues or random person asked me about Amanda Todd in real life just to avoid a dissection, if it was a person I felt comfortable with I would say the same thing "yeah its sad but I really don't care about person on the other side of the world committing suicide".
I think suicide is a way to escape your problems rather then face them,
I hate to sound like a right wing fascist (wait, do I?), but I think the problem began with the hippies in the 60's. All this I love you, everybody's great, lets all hold hands and get along crap came from that movement. As those people came into positions of authority in the 80's, this kind of mentality started really taking over. The only hope I hold out for humanity is that it seems to me that most reasonable parents of young children today want nothing to do with that bullshit.
That comment probably came out wrong, it was me trying to use my limited understanding what would course a person to commit suicide, for me the only thing I could think off that would make me commit suicide is being stuck in some 3rd world torture prison, that was really all that part of the post was about, people in the western world is just a susceptible to bullying and depression as the rest of the world.
If I am missing some key inside into the human condition please inform me what that inside might be, yes I would care if it was someone close to me that died and I probably would give "yeah its sad" comment if a colleagues or random person asked me about Amanda Todd in real life just to avoid a dissection, if it was a person I felt comfortable with I would say the same thing "yeah its sad but I really don't care about person on the other side of the world committing suicide".
I see people post with references to "the human condition" sometimes, I tried looking into what it mean before but everything I found about it say something different then the site before it, the only solid thing I found is that it is a philosophical idea more then anything.
Ummm, you mean exactly like you're doing now?As I inferred above, one of the most common displays of ignorance is believing your own subjective position and experience with life is somehow sufficient to guage what's reasonable for other people.
Ummm, you mean exactly like you're doing now?
The guy's got a rather unpopular opinion. He even admits it as such. All you fuzzy anklebiters are going into attack mode because somehow you're just completely certain that your subjective opinion is more valid than his subjective opinion, and justifying the attacks on the false logic that your hivemind subjective opinion is somehow objectively valid. Must be some sort of enlightened logic at work.
I know there are probably some people that feel strongly about this and this isn't meant to troll anyone, I just can't feel bad for anyone living in today's western world with all the freedoms that entail and then commit suicide.
Not only does it sound cold, but as I see it it IS cold. Your post suggests limited emotional capicatiy and above all you seem to know very little about what drives people to comitting suicide.
As for sounding cold, I guess you do. That said, I suspect we're talking ignorance about the human condition above all. Very common - and often more pronounced online than when talking face to face.
=================You seem to be missing something vital about the human condition. As I inferred above, one of the most common displays of ignorance is believing your own subjective position and experience with life is somehow sufficient to guage what's reasonable for other people.
It's possible we're arguing different points here. To nutshell it, he put up "I don't have much sympathy for a suicide because that's just weakness", and the response was "*GASP* you're a monster and clearly ignorant because every life is a treasure". Both of the "because" are subjective opinions so neither really carries the day—the difference is the hivemind sees fit to be insulting about it because they've falsely promoted their subjective opinion to an objective fact.No, not what I'm doing now. I've stated no objective opinion about her suicide. That's because I don't think that's possible.
He's judging someone based on what can only be incredibly limited information about the person in question.
My personal opinion is that you can't make such a determination with the level of information we have available.
As for the level of popularity his opinion holds - I find that completely irrelevant to the discussion at hand.
This:
Is what I'm questioning. What does he know about her freedoms and her situation in general?
I'd like to know why he thinks that a society he considers "free" translates to everyone living there having no reason to commit suicide. At least, why does he not feel bad for her, for that particular reason?
It smacks of complete ignorance in terms of the human condition.
Something I'll gladly claim not to suffer from on that level, which is why I feel very comfortable challenging such a point of view.
That's my subjective position - and it's right there for you to challenge, if you think you can back up why I'm wrong.
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It's possible we're arguing different points here. To nutshell it, he put up "I don't have much sympathy for a suicide because that's just weakness", and the response was "*GASP* you're a monster and clearly ignorant because every life is a treasure". Both of the "because" are subjective opinions so neither really carries the day—the difference is the hivemind sees fit to be insulting about it because they've falsely promoted their subjective opinion to an objective fact.
If you're strictly hung up with his "western world" angle, that's a different horse altogether. Then you're basically tied up in whether relativism can be objective.
That's why I included the quotes. Would you like to do some revisionist history? Or did you not mean "ignorance" when you typed "ignorance"?Your intepretation of the reaction is on you, and it has nothing to do with how I reacted.
This only holds water if your holy grail, "the human condition" (which, it bears mentioning, is by your own admission rather broad and grey around the edges) is somehow objectively "good". Since you introduced the angle and seem to be hanging your entire response on it, perhaps you're on the hook to demonstrate that it (whatever the hell it actually is) is objectively worth pursuing.In my opinion, you're not a monster because you can't empathize with strangers or understand how other people can be very, very different from yourself.
In case of the latter, you're simply being ignorant of the human condition, which is an excessively widespread feature.
As such, it's a very common position and one which I have no issue speaking out against - as I think it contributes greatly to the misery of the world.