Originally Posted by lackblogger
It's weird, but sometimes, most often after watching a nature documentary, I'll sit there and rationalise the concept that maybe everyone would be happier if we let the alpha males do all the breeding with all the fertile women and not try to encourage poor sex-lives onto not very sexually motivated people, something that must be very difficult for a lot of people for who the sex has died in their relationships. Then, when I actually see this happen in practise, such as with depictions of Harems or Mormons, playboys etc, I just feel this awful barrel of jealous rage boil up inside me for which I have no rational explanation, nor rational control.

Interesting viewpoint. I have never thought of it that way.

I never understood why the weaker males wouldn't just rebel against the stronger one

Originally Posted by Jaz
Just a little reminder - the OP's intentions with this thread were the following (bolded by me to make it easier for you to understand):
So if you have another agenda, take it somewhere else.
Thank you.

Thanks Jaz

It seems interesting that we basically have a split forum of married people/single people.

As someone who works with data, I would want to make a survey of the age brackets now versus relationship status and compare it to the wider world

See how different RPGWatch is to that.

Thanks everyone again for the congrats.

Not to make it a debate, just my views:
In terms of poly-amorous relationships, my own view is that if it works, why not ?
But I have a hard time seeing how it could work for most people. Many people will have some element of jealousy, which will be hard to remove completely.

But then again every marriage/partnership/couple have difficulties they need to overcome. So I guess this is just adding another one to the pile.

I see that I am only one who voted serial monogamist so far.I am still in my twenties so I am in no rush to get into serious relationship and marriage so I prefer to keep my relationships short and sweet (my longest one lasted little longer than a year).Don't get me wrong I don't change girlfriends weekly and I never cheat or think about other women while it lasts and I am not entirely closed on option of serious relationship but prefer to keep relationship from developing too much.

Ooh, I'm a cereal polyamorous dude. I like Cheerios, then I'll switch to Corn Flakes, then maybe some Wheaties or Cap'n Crunch. I've been known to have more than one in the same bowl even

We all enjoy spooning with one another….

Other for me as I am recently separated after 16 years of marriage, my decision for this but still feel kinda lost right now.

Sorry to hear that. Hope you find a new way of life to settle into.

Originally Posted by Warmark
Other for me as I am recently separated after 16 years of marriage, my decision for this but still feel kinda lost right now.

Sorry to hear.

All the best in the future.

Yes, Warmark, I hope things get better for you, and you get what you want and need.

Grats to you Pladio. Marriage is a wonderful,er,institution.

Been married for 20 years and I vote for forever until she starts looking at me like she wants to kill me.

I've been in a monogamous marriage for 6 years. I also have a daughter that just turned 4. My family is the best thing that's ever happened to me. I always feel like the luckiest man in the world.

I've found in my research that the key to a happy marriage is having more money than you can spend (my marriage excluded of course, we are beyond such petty things. ). So, you know, go get a ton of money. Metric, of course.

Thanks guys for your kind words, and I don't mean to put a damper on your good news Pladio.
My wife and I had a great marriage and life for many years and wouldn't trade those times for anything, sometimes things just change whether you want them to or not.

So all the best with your upcoming marriage Pladio!

Originally Posted by Korplem
I've found in my research that the key to a happy marriage is having more money than you can spend (my marriage excluded of course, we are beyond such petty things. ). So, you know, go get a ton of money. Metric, of course.

I've been on both sides of the money thing, and I can agree. Struggling to pay bills and living week to week makes marriage rough. Having money left over after you buy everything you want is better Normally, the 2nd part happens as you start to get old though. That kinda sucks

Originally Posted by Warmark
Other for me as I am recently separated after 16 years of marriage, my decision for this but still feel kinda lost right now.

I honestly can't imagine separation from my wife, so I hope you folks get back together if it is possible. No sense in being miserable though….Good luck.

Originally Posted by Korplem
I've found in my research that the key to a happy marriage is having more money than you can spend (my marriage excluded of course, we are beyond such petty things. ). So, you know, go get a ton of money. Metric, of course.

This. Having to worry about money and not being able to enjoy good food and wine together would put a medium - heavy strain on my relationship.

Originally Posted by crpgnut
I honestly can't imagine separation from my wife…

I, on the other hand, honestly can't imagine living with my wife. There are at least 2 sides to every issue

How come, when you mention a shotgun wedding, everyone just winks and nods and grins, yet if you mention a shotgun divorce, everyone is appalled?

Well, again we might get into a debate, but I doubt money has anything to do with happiness in a relationship.

A lot of the happily married people don't have much money, and a lot of rich couples get divorced for example. I think if you love each other, it doesn't matter so much if you eat lobster or left-over pork, you'll be happy anyhow.

Originally Posted by GothicGothicness
Well, again we might get into a debate, but I doubt money has anything to do with happiness in a relationship.

A lot of the happily married people don't have much money, and a lot of rich couples get divorced for example. I think if you love each other, it doesn't matter so much if you eat lobster or left-over pork, you'll be happy anyhow.

Money is not the *only* thing required for happiness in a relationship… Having enough but not too much helps a lot.

Originally Posted by lostforever
Money is not the *only* thing required for happiness in a relationship… Having enough but not too much helps a lot.

The most simple example: Long distance relationship where you cannot afford to meet frequently due to costs.

Originally Posted by GothicGothicness
A lot of the happily married people don't have much money, and a lot of rich couples get divorced for example. I think if you love each other, it doesn't matter so much if you eat lobster or left-over pork, you'll be happy anyhow.

doesn't sound very realistic IMO

Money has something to do with happiness, as has been shown several times. However, this is only true to a certain degree; after a certain threshold in financial security is reached, more money doesn't mean more happiness anymore.

And while a happy relationship could take some strain off your mind by clinging together more tightly, a strained relationship might get dragged down further by financial troubles.

Relationship means sharing, and therefore having something to share in the first place is useful. I don't think we can argue about a nice vacation together where you can sample some of the finer things in life is a great thing for a relationship, creating beautiful memories that you can dwell on for the rest of the year. Staying at home watching TV because you don't have the money probably doesn't have the same effect.