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I answer to LORD Corwin!! Oh Great One also works well!! Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so don't rush things.

Enjoy getting to know each other over time. The best relationships are built on friendship.
You sound like you have that giddy "am I going to jump, laugh, throw up or faint" level of happy anticipation going. You know it's going somewhere if everytime the phone rings you get the butterflies thinking it might be her.
Enjoy the long talks and getting to know you better stage. I'm with everyone else- very happy for you.

Ease up a bit, Bart. You don't want her to worry that you're an obsessive nutjob. Sounds like it's going great so far, though!

Well, some girls / boys like crazy obsessive nutjobs. Of course it can be exegeratted and go wrong like DTE is warning. But some girls really love to know you are crazy about them.

Corwin said:

Just remember, I give discounted rates to members of the Watch who decide to get married in Oz!! All the best.

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Discounted rates on what & which bit of Australia? Getting married in Perth next year myself

EDIT - to someone I also sort of met online, although not a dating website and we were both part of the same extended social circle, but would most likely never have ended up talking properly without the internet to interact on.

GothicGothicness said:

Well, some girls / boys like crazy obsessive nutjobs. Of course it can be exegeratted and go wrong like DTE is warning. But some girls really love to know you are crazy about them.

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I'll get her on the phone (we agreed to do that yesterday) this evening and ask her what she prefers

I don't think that I'm the crazy kinda guy. I can control it when I post here and let a few friends know how it develops. I just hope that I can post a pic of us two soon. Then you'll see how incredibly cute she is. After all she was a model a few years ago and now a beauty specialist -> I mean that she makes other women (or possibly men don't know for sure) more beautiful by polishing nails, using those strange kinds of lotions, a bit like a beauty farm, but just at home.

@Kayla Right on. Although I have some doubts too. I mean that I don't like a woman that smokes and her profile said: sometimes. I see how it turns out. You never know, but the general feeling is still good.

If anything, Bartacus, you strike me as the shy and kind kind rather than the crazy and obsessive kind. Just be yourself; if she likes it, fantastic, if not, it'll just have saved time because it wouldn't have worked out anyway.

(Oh, and, with little details like occasional smoking -- unless you're terminally allergic to it or something, ignore it. You absolutely will not find anyone who fits your specification to the last possible detail -- and if you did, you would very soon find yourself bored to tears. It's the little differences and tensions that make life interesting; the critical bit is having just the right amount of them -- to much and it turns into a war zone, not enough, and it's like watching paint dry.)

Benedict said:

Discounted rates on what & which bit of Australia? Getting married in Perth next year myself

EDIT - to someone I also sort of met online, although not a dating website and we were both part of the same extended social circle, but would most likely never have ended up talking properly without the internet to interact on.

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I perform weddings, but I live on the opposite coast to Perth.

That's good to hear, Bart. I'm very happy for you.

Very bad news people. Normally I would have talked to her on the phone yesterday, but I got the machine immediately. I asked to call me back, but after half an hour I didn't get anything. I send her a small message, but she didn't respond whatsoever. Since I had to help a friend of my uncle that evening, I got busy and it took her a bit of my mind. When I came back home around 23:00 I tried to call her once more and still got the answer machine.
I send her a mail asking for an explanation in the nicest possible way. I didn't get any mail back yet, but this morning I looked at the relation site she found me on. She has been logged in on September 16, so I know for sure she had the chance to look at my mails (yesterday morning I had send the happy mail + the mail from 23:00) too. I understand now that she played me and I rushed in. I have much less trust in her now and hopes that she experiences the same thing she did to me over and over again.

I think you need to calm down a bit, Bart. She's not necessarily playing you. If she doesn't get in touch in another day or two, then she's avoiding you -- and even then, it'll probably mean that it just didn't work out for her the same way it did for you, not that she was toying with you. If she's about your age, she's likely to be just about as confused as you are.

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I perform weddings, but I live on the opposite coast to Perth.

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Ah well, I've been regularly told that my uk perspectives cannot even comprehend how far that is.

Beellleeeons and beeelllllleeeons of miles....

dteowner said:

Beellleeeons and beeelllllleeeons of miles....

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:lol: A phrase that goes well with your avatar for some reason

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Very bad news people. Normally I would have talked to her on the phone yesterday, but I got the machine immediately. I asked to call me back, but after half an hour I didn't get anything. I send her a small message, but she didn't respond whatsoever. Since I had to help a friend of my uncle that evening, I got busy and it took her a bit of my mind. When I came back home around 23:00 I tried to call her once more and still got the answer machine.
I send her a mail asking for an explanation in the nicest possible way. I didn't get any mail back yet, but this morning I looked at the relation site she found me on. She has been logged in on September 16, so I know for sure she had the chance to look at my mails (yesterday morning I had send the happy mail + the mail from 23:00) too. I understand now that she played me and I rushed in. I have much less trust in her now and hopes that she experiences the same thing she did to me over and over again.

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Chill out dude. Consider what things might look like from her perspective - she's met someone, got on well, might not be 100% sure and the guy might be more into her than she is into him but she still likes him and wants to take some time and see him again and work out what she feels, then while she's going over things in her head and trying to think there's a phone call, then another phone call, then a message, then a text to see if she's got the message, then an email, then some more phone calls, then a stroppy email, then some more phone calls etc. Is that going to make her want to see you again, or is that going to make her feel nervous and defensive?

You're sending out "This is it! You are the woman of my dreams! Marry me and have my babies and we'll be together for the REST OF OUR LIVES" vibes to her with that level of contact, she might want to take things more slowly and have some time to get to know you and see how things work out and still have the chance to walk away from it if it's not right for her without breaking your heart or ending up with a stalker.

The whole treat 'em mean / game playing business is crap and you don't want anyone who's only into you if you're treating them like that, but there's a massive gap between treating them mean and being really obsessive and insisting that she talk to you NOW, and somewhere in that massive gap is space for you to be totally honest about who you are and how you feel without making her feel pressured, because if she feels pressured she'll retreat.

What he said.

Bart, you have to take this for what it is and not necessarily you being "played" as you called it. For what ever reason, she has decided to pull away. I did get the feeling you were having strong feelings for someone you only just met, but you have to realize, you did only just meet.

You have no idea what is going through her mind about all this. So ask her and if she responds fine, if not, then she was not the one for you and you move on.

I know it hurts, but would you rather she keep stringing you on by pretending to have feelings she doesn't have? Most people have a hard time with relationships. If she is one who doesn't know how or is too scared or nervous to tell you why she is avoiding you, it is not you, it is her lack of ability. Don't take it as a slap.

Finding the right someone is a slow process, so look at the fun you did have while getting to know her and once you get past the fact it didn't work, start looking again.

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I deleted the content, because I finally see that I was the one that went wrong. Thanks Benedict for pointing that out. It might be to late for this woman, but if it is then I learnt a valuable lesson: I got way to needy.

Nothing wrong with needing, just don't let it color your perspective of what is happening.

Cm, you're sweet. Fact remains that I became more or less aggressive in my mails. I care for her more then I ever did for a woman even Kristien. It's just that when I would be in her shoes, I don't know if I would give a man like me a second chance. I almost dare not to hope. At any case I deactivated my account at the relation site. It's just that I don't want another woman right now if it isn't her.

I gave her a link to this place, don't know if she tries it out. My mistake was that I listened to my nephew with his bad advice -> I don't why I trusted him more then all of you. I mean: Does he have a relationship or did he have a serious one? NO. That's why I blame myself. If I just waited till yesterday evening, she probadly would have called me anyway. Instead of that I became accusing and needy. It's because of the fact that when you tell me to call at 8pm, I will do that and I freaked out when she wasn't like that. I thought she was the same as me cause of the frequent calls and didn't count on the fact that every person is different

We agreed that I'd wait two weeks now for a call from her. If she does, I'll feel like the luckiest person on earth. If she doesn't then I'll wait a bit and try not to make the same mistake when I'm ready to start again.