Really? If a male wants to play a FPS or RPG, there are loads of options available and the majority of them (like my faves Gothic & Risen) exist in a male-centric world, so being a male in that environment is simple enough. If a woman wants to play, she has signed up to play games as a man, in a world where women are 'eye candy'.
In what world are women not eye candy?
They can be other things in gaming and other places, but if you think men don't enjoy looking at beautiful women - you're being silly.
Yes, the industry was created by men, it's largely run by men - and gamers are mostly men.
Why would anyone expect a fair division in that scenario? Do you think that activities that are largely dominated by the female sex is any different?
If you confuse natural division based on how things evolve with intentional discrimination, you're being silly.
Are some men sexist? You bet - and that's unfortunate. But it's pretty important not to confuse the few with the many when there's a reason things are uneven that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with discrimination.
What JDR meant by it working in the other direction, is that there are women who prefer to play women. The fact that they don't have that choice as often has nothing to do with that preference not being there.
If women want to be a part of this industry and culture, they have to take a stand. You can't expect the vast majority to go out of their way to allow people who used to dismiss it as "for nerds" into their fold.
You must understand that it takes resources to adapt games to both genders and to research what appeals to both - and it takes both sexes to understand that well enough.
These things don't happen over night, and while I - personally - think it would be nice if EVERYONE was extra understanding and inviting, it's completely natural to have ~90% men have an obvious effect on games they're making for ~90% men.
To simply dismiss the omission of that extra and quite significant effort as discrimination is ignorance on a high level.
