You are getting entangled in your own thoughts again DArt:
1- "You can spend your life helping people and yet still sexually abuse your child at home" - I don't and neither does the majority of the population. You can't try to refute a general point by pointing to the extremes. I mean you can, but that's not how it works.
It serves as a very clear demonstration of how even the "best" of us can be selfish. If you look into the scandals happening in the clerical field with priests and young boys - it will seem much less far fetched.
I could bring up any example and you'd call it a singular extreme. Like an alchoholic father doing great things for the community - but fails to be present when he's home with his family.
That's an extreme? Unfortunately, the only way such things are extreme is in how common they are.
2- "As for evolutionary theories, they can't change that we're all selfish in different ways. That's because human beings are limited and we don't have he capacity to be selfless in every action we take" - that's (as Brits would have put it) a lot of bollocks since it's not necessary to act selflessly in every action we take. It's enough if somebody is doing it from time to time.
Someone doing it from time to time is still selfish in one way or another during those other times. That's my point.
Another point is that we're ALL selfless from time to time.
Not a single person in the world is entirely selfish or selfless - and that's really all I'm saying.
Again, it's pretty basic stuff. Don't be silly and try to refute something that obvious.
Yes, it's obvious - but people still can't help but think in terms of black and white. That's why I feel I have to bring it up.
So, when someone refuses to give away money - he or she might have good reasons, and they might STILL be very selfless in other ways. They may be the most attentive parents or friends - doing everything they can to help those close to them.
Does that mean they're selfish? I think not. Not unless we're all selfish - and that's what I'm saying we are.
People are so quick to judge and label - and yet we know next to nothing about why we do or don't do what we do.
But if you want to believe that people are "good" or "bad" because they give or don't give - be my guest. You'll just be yet another ignorant human being in that way.