Another OOT post from me (sorry
@bjon045, I was typing it when you posted).
I digress, but I can accept that you think you were being fair. In my opinion, with better moderation, I wouldn't need to have 14 ignored users, and I would be much nicer myself (I used to be, some people might remember).
From where I sit, it does look like a vicious circle. You must know those things better than me, but I don't see the situation improving if you keep the current attitude, unless there's some massive moderation to keep both sides in check. Thankfully (or unfortunately in this case), this isn't the current style of the Watch.
I'm bad at diplomacy, but I've heard that the good reaction was to calmly explain what is irritating and discuss about it, to give a chance to both parties to be a little less subjective.
If we look at this thread: I don't think that Maylander ever said anything bad to you and he was an example of a composed poster with everyone, yet you suddenly took offence and wrote this:
you're the one who seems upset and is spamming wall of text after wall of text, not me
I'm not quoting the beginning of the paragraph, which could easily be considered as patronizing, unless it came from a friend or at least someone he's known for a while. That also depends on the culture; I suppose it could be acceptable in some countries.
I can't speak for others, but for me it would be a problem if someone told me this, especially if there has been some tension before. Then there are several posts that look like general criticism addressed to the general audience (no quotes, no mentions), which I believe is what irks people most in your posts - again, I may be wrong, but others said it explicitly too.
I'm not saying I'm not making the same mistakes; I'm irrelevant here and only trying to point out what I see as being part of the problem. Ignoring so many people may also make you miss the feedback that would allow the situation to improve.
PS: If I'm in the list too, it's all very pointless, but at least I've tried (for the last time).