JemyM
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I guess we'll have to agree to disagree here, then. From where I'm at, I don't see anything inherently elitist about discussing the world as it is as opposed to how we'd like it to be -- especially since I believe we're much more likely to find agreement about reality than about objectives.
Your experience is way above average which means that the "reality" that you take for granted is more than an average individual is able to comprehend. Furthermore, you have broken down plenty of natural instincts that you were born with. People with less experience than you still live with instincts that give them mistrust or fear. Before you can debate race you must first verify that whoever you talk to have the same stage of raised consciousness as you have.
I don't believe it's possible, or indeed desirable, to train away our propensity to identify with groups based on characteristics transmitted to us by our parents and society. I think it would be far more productive to try to learn to relate constructively to people who identify with different groups. That, naturally, applies to minority groups just as much as dominant ones.
You already did. Your experiences have challenged your instincts and were reprogrammed. You have already broken more barriers than most people will do in their lifetime.
I think that this is putting the cart before the horse. Using the description "black" is only bad if you believe or feel that "black" carries negative or exclusionary connotations.
It does if it's used in a competitive situation, such as promoting a president.
We were all ridiculously diverse in values, backgrounds, cultural expectations, and appearances, all thrown together in a big ol' multicolored mess, and it all somehow worked out just fine. For most of us, anyway.
I mean sure, there were the usual teenage cliques and all the general cattiness associated with it, but I honestly can't recall anything that was racially or ethnically or religiously motivated. I personally certainly never liked or disliked or feared any of my schoolmates for these reasons. Yet we were all very conscious about our respective cultures and communities. It's there, it's real, and it wasn't a big deal.
Teenagers are identity seekers but they do not understand cultures like an adult. They often go to radical extremes and try to identify themselves with whatever is available to them. Thing is, you still recognized eachother as individuals and you weren't even old enough to really recognize traditional cultural prejudice and misconceptions. I doubt any of you were as conscious about your respective cultures/communities compared to an adult who lived his/her entire lives within a fixed group. You were not representatives of different cultures, you were a culture. A rich culture, but still an unique culture composed by the people who were there.
But culture isn't the same thing as race. Culture is dynamic, not genetic.
But he *is* black, and that *does* make a difference to the way he sees himself, and the way American voters -- black, white, brown, yellow, red, Jewish, Arab, whatever -- see him. It's no use pretending that he isn't, or it doesn't. You say you've befriended people from different ethnic or religious backgrounds: that's a million times more effective in bringing down the barriers that separate us than pretending that those barriers don't exist.
From my perspective the barriers are an illusion that every individual have to tear down. Once done, there's no reason to recognize the barrier anymore and you are better of to tell others that "hey, that barrier is just an illusion, trust me". I do not recognize a friend as "my friend, the arab muslim". I recognize a friend as "my friend, mr hillarious" or "she, the deep one, kind but with many issues". Social traits, not racial or ethnic.
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